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There is this one friend who I really care about, let's call her Alison. We started knowing each other about two years ago because we had a class together. Alison and I are very different - I'm very outspoken, but Alison is quiet and shy. I'm very open, but Alison likes to keep things to herself. But there was one thing we had in common - we wanted to explore the world. When I started to realize we'd gotten closer, I felt that I had nothing to hide from her. So I told her almost everything about me while she only told me few things about her, but I was happy that we became friends. We hung out a lot. Alison helped me a lot. She was one of the reasons I have what I have today. Alison and I planned many things together - we planned to live together after high school, we planned to take trips together .. but we never got to go because I didn't have a job then to have enough money to go with her. Alison also wanted me to move with her to ... well let's say New York. Since moving with her means I have to leave my mother alone .. I just can't go. When she asks me if I was going to go with her, I often tell her "we'll see," or "no for now, I just can't leave my mom". She was disappointed. Since that was the only thing that helps bonding us, we seem to avoid each other after that. Now, we both know that our friendship has faded little by little, but we still see each other outside of school.. and it's tough - at least for me. I know that Alison is not selfish for being disappointed in me. She is not wrong for drawing me on her future. But, I don't know, I don't want to lose her.. not another friend, but I also just can't do what she asks.. I just can't leave another thing I value the most behind.
I too highly value family and friends.This may sound very blunt but friends come and go, family is forever, they're kind of stuck with you and visa versa hahah. As long as you don't regret the decision you made, that's all that matters. I don't at all think you were selfish for making the decision you made. If Alison really cared she would understand. I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteIt's nice that you value your family so much, and you value your friends a lot as well. When you have friends like that, it can be difficult. But I have to agree with Jennie. If she really cared, she would not think you were selfish. It's good to stick to what you think is right, and do what you want. Friends shouldn't push you to do something that you don't want. Good luck with your situation.
ReplyDeleteI understand why she is upset, but you need to do what you think is right and not let someone else dictate your life. You can still be friends even if you don't live together, just try your best to keep in touch. I hope everything works out for you.
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