Sometimes I wonder if parents know how much they hurt their kids by breaking up. My parents are divorced nine years ago. Both of them found a new partner. I've never told them that this is one of the biggest problems in my life. I know I sound like a weak whiny little girl, but it may be a time for me to let it out. I don't know if my parents know that this is a huge problem to me. On top of that, both of my parents are not open enough. Both of them don't really sit down and talk to me one on one. My father, especially, doesn't sit down and talk to me because he feels uncomfortable. Since both of them have moved on and found new partners, I guess I'm the only one who's left behind. Which is not fair, to me. When both of them want to avoid the problem, they could just not talk to each other. But for me, I'm their child. I have to love them both equally. I ran away from home couple times, because I want to avoid both of them. Now that I have to know and accept their partners as my step father and step mother - I've become suffocated. I know I should get over it at last, but I just can't. It's so hard to get over something I have to suffer for a life time - and it's not even my problem. Although, the only thing I can do right now is to make sure that my future children don't get to suffer because of me. Oh well..
Aww It's ok, everything will become better. I have noticed that an astounding number of divorces have been happening year after year. I feel that in our time marrige doesnt mean as much as it used to. Instead of fixing problems people tend to leave it and have it grow until they can't deal with it anymore. I have a single mother so I don't quite understand the pain of divorces but I can tell you that it gets better. Talking will be awkward at first but eventually it will be comforting.
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ReplyDeleteI think it's very important to talk about how you feel, and if you can't do that with parents, be sure to do it with friends who are good listeners or even a therapist who can help you find ways to deal with this kind of struggle. My parents are divorced too, and it helps when you have a friend to talk to about this kind of thing.
ReplyDeleteI am in a similar situation, I suppose. My parents divorced several years ago as well, but things are different. I think for them, it was supposed to happen. Nothing was going to fix them. But I can see why you would be upset, especially if your parents aren't open or have moved on without really talking. It's tough, but you're not weak or whiny for feeling that way. Talking about it will make you feel better. Maybe find a friend you trust to talk to - it'll get better.
ReplyDeleteI understand. My parents both have things of their own while being together and its really aggravating. I feel you girl.
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